READ
This week’s
blog post is about Bahrain, a small island in the Persian Gulf with a
population that’s predominantly Muslim. The book I read was Yummah, by Sarah A. Al Shafei, and it
tells the story of Khadeeja, beginning with her marriage at the age of twelve.
Khadeeja’s
mother, a widow, arranges for her to marry Mohammed, a man several years her
senior whom Khadeeja has never met. Her mother is eager for the wedding to take
place because she herself has a terminal illness, and she wants to make sure
someone is there to take care of Khadeeja after she dies. Khadeeja pours out
her thoughts on the upcoming wedding to her doll Layla, who remains her
confidant throughout her life.
Khadeeja is
happy in her marriage, and she and her husband have eight children. When she is
pregnant with her ninth child, however, she is suddenly abandoned by Mohammed,
who until that moment has been a model husband. The rest of the book follows
Khadeeja’s efforts in raising her children without any support from Mohammed.
One
interesting aspect of the book is watching the way customs and mores change
over the years. Khadeeja marries off her first daughter at the age of twelve,
just as she was married. But her second daughter decides to quit school and go
to work in a beauty salon to help support the family, something that would have
been unheard of a few short years before. All of the children, including (or
maybe especially) the girls, become strong and independent. There are quarrels
and challenges, but the family bonds remain. By the end of the book, even
Mohammed returns to the fold.
While most
of the book is focused on Khadeeja’s responsibilities as a wife and mother, one
chapter is devoted to a trip she decides to take to Mecca, the holiest city in
the Islamic religion. After all the challenges she had faced after Mohammed
left, Khadeeja feels the need to heal her soul. She arranges to go with a group
of women, not only to Mecca, but to other holy sites as well.
The author’s
descriptions of the places visited and Khadeeja’s experiences are beautiful and
heartfelt. “The moment I entered the Prophet’s land I felt a shiver in my body,
I felt as if the air was hugging me and the vibe filled my heart and soul with
love and faith. Everything was different everything was better; the life, the
harmony, the land, even the fruits, the dates, the vegetables. The sun was
cooler, the moon had a special shine, and the stars had a continuous twinkle.”
Khadeeja returns home with a renewed sense of purpose.
The word “Yummah”
means grandmother, a tribute to Khadeeja’s long and fulfilling life as her
children have children of their own and Khadeeja remains at the center of the
family circle. The book presents a lovely portrait of a strong and loving woman
and the family she raises on her own.
COOK
So I decided
to make halwa for this blog post. I found a recipe for Bahraini halwa on a blog
called “Spice Traveller.” It was easy to veganize by replacing the butter with
vegan margarine, but it was a tricky recipe to make since I had never dry-fried
sugar before and wasn’t sure I was doing it right. I also wasn’t quite sure
what cornflour was, so I had to look it up. Apparently, if you live in the
United Kingdom or Australia, cornflour means cornstarch, but if you live
anywhere else, it’s just cornmeal. At any rate, it all worked out.
GIVE
The
organization I chose to receive my donation is Alia for Early Intervention, a
program of the Bahrain Society for Children with Behavior and Communication
Disorders. Services are available to children who are “at least eighteen months of age at the time of
referral, and suspected of developmental delay or diagnosed with a physical or
mental condition, resulting in a high probability of delay in the following
areas: cognitive development, communication development, social or emotional
development, or physical development.” More information about this organization
is available at http://www.childbehavior.org/earlyinterventioncenter.html.
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